Dr Bonnie Eaker Weil explains what I will call "Breaking up is a good way to re-negotiate and re-seduce your partner!" in her book entitled "Make Up, Don't Break Up", which depicts Dr Bonnie's journey from early childhood through to how she's survived being a family and marriage therapist, and a period of 20 years being single between her first and second marriage - she finally worked it out for her patients.
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The premise of the book discusses her wisdom acquired through hard work and heart ache. After reading her book and interviewing her I now consider this lesson to be one of the most important tools in love and life. Make Up, Don't Break Up teaches us vital and necessary skills to sail through love’s struggles. She explains that we all go through separation anxiety and the process of reconnection. She has decades of experience behind her and shares with simplicity, in a way that I finally got .. one thing to master in life is love and in any love relationship - one thing is for sure and can’t be avoided, and that’s fighting. We all do it at some stage and in her interview she teaches us how to fight fairly.
I've read a lot of books and none explain so clearly as Dr Bonnie does - the "dance" between a male and female, that is the pursuer and distancer, and that falling in love happens while we're away from the relationship. In other words, distance makes the heart grow fonder. Hence breaking up is a sure-fire method of re-seduction and you could almost say is necessary.
I've found her work to be a life changing experience and her latest 2nd edition comes with an added video guide to her specialised tools. I personally could relate to her struggles of being hurt and overcoming infidelity. She cleverly made me realize that under all of that - there is love!
Love is work and can be challenging, especially in today's society with people taking a lot longer to find love. Her work helps us avoid the path less travelled. She's done all the work for us and I feel it’s classic in its inspiration to anyone looking to fall in love. Everyone should acquire her tools.
I'm happy to say that if more people read this book we would have so many more successful relationships and a better world.
It doesn't amaze me anymore that I'm 33 and single. My education didn't include teaching me any skills to navigate my own heart and love is the only thing which is real. Understanding that breaking up to make up is a sure way to avoiding hurt, which can lead to health issues and problems. You want love? .. as she so kindly puts it .. "I did it, and so can you."
Her book explains what a life of experience can teach us. This is definitely a classic, which I believe goes beyond the philosopher Eric Fromm’s book, and teaches us how to cope with getting to true love.
She's so worth listening to - I interviewed Dr Bonnie Eaker Weil on her book and her personal love story and on developing tools to navigate love by dissolving rules that society imposes on us. Her book has helped me, and I'm so grateful I'd like to offer a FREE pre-release special to my fans. If you'd like to watch her interview, please EMAIL your request to:
